There is a lot of good philosophy and tips for women, regardless of career or employment status. This generous and creative solution worked for both of them, and was only realized because Dufu had done the work clarifying priorities, nurturing networks to make it a reality. Combining these two led her a crystal-clear set of priorities: loving Kojo her husband , raising conscious global citizens, and advancing women and girls. I've improved in my communication and awareness of things I can just stop doing dropped balls! I would tweak the list before using it for myself. She and her husband live in New York with their two children, ages 10 and 7. Finally, her insistence that women get enough sleep and find a way to get exercise has really hit home for me. Seeing the behaviors described in black and white helps cement how ridiculous they are.
My book club had a really interesting conversation about how women are socialized to do it all, and how deciding not to do it all to drop the ball is an active decision, an affirmative opting-out. A bold and inspiring memoir and manifesto from a renowned voice in the women's leadership movement who shows women how to cultivate the single skill they really need in order to thrive: the ability to let go. And while we might be able to afford outside help that is not the priority we have for our savings right now. I suspect tactics and suggestions are the same, but the science and research behind it would be interesting. Eventually, she discovered the solution: letting go.
Once the poster girl for doing it all, after she had her first child, Tiffany Dufu struggled to accomplish everything she thought she needed to in order to succeed. So, when a woman finally says that some of the things that don't take her to her highest and best self -- remembering to This was an eye-opener about some of my own habits in my marriage and I'm glad I read this. Five minutes of Googling will provide copious amounts of information on how to do this. This message is occasionally lost by her emphasis on dropping the ball at home. She wants to be the best at everything. But what influenced me the most about this book was the wisdom she imparts to men about how to be better partners in supporting the leadership journeys of the women in their lives. She used those considerations to determine what activities she would continue and pursue.
She wants equal partnership in the home, so women have the same opportunities as men in the workplace. Of all of the hills to die on, this one affects your credit rating. She seems to operate in this strange middle ground, between clinging to a very antiquated, patriarchal model of he's-the-boss marriage, and wanting something better for her own relationship. We need women and men who lead by example, as Tiffany Dufu does for readers on these pages. Once the poster girl for doing it all, after she had her first child, Tiffany Dufu struggled to accomplish everything she thought she needed to in order to succeed. And my husband is also currently the owner of our social calendar for our family and we've 'trained' our friends to contact him with dinner and trip invites. But one by one, misgivings started to crop up, grow, and multiply, so that by the end of the book I was unsettled by Dufu's most basic assumptions and motivations.
Dufu describes how her upbringing in the church modeled for her gendered expectations at community gatherings: I remember these feasts of my childhood with great affection, but I also remember the gendered division of labor; in our church, women were the caregivers who cooked for, set up for, and served the men. Finding herself with two small children in New York and a husband who worked full time in Dubai meant she had to get creative about who helped her and how. It describes what she needed to do to achieve the vision of her life. Where are the options for women who want to support their families, but don't have their heart set on making it to the top? In every photograph, her Michelle Obama-esque biceps indicate the gym is not an infrequent part of her routine. Once the poster girl for doing it all, after she had her first child, Tiffany Dufu struggled to accomplish everything she thought she needed to in order to succeed.
I see a lot of myself in the situations Dufu describes, and I have been trying to get better about this especially regarding standards of perfection at home - it really made me feel less alone with my own struggles and offers up some great strategies for how to allow yourself to let things go, as well as how to approach your partner for help if this is an issue. But one by one, misgivings started to crop up, grow, and multiply, so that by the end of the book I was unsettled by Dufu's most basic assumptions and motivations. She goes on to tell of her struggles to balance her work life with her ever-increasing family and marital expectations. A marvellous and instructive read! Tiffany Dufu's Drop the Ball is crucial because it takes on that deeper system. Drop the Ball is accessible, vulnerable and optimistic. Well, I doubt he really feels like scrubbing the toilet is the highest and best use of his time either, but if you can't afford a housekeeper, then someone's got to do those kinds of jobs eventually.
She gives us specific tools and techniques to help us achieve our goals and live authentic lives free of guilt and regret -- Reshma Saujani, founder Girls Who Code In sharing her moving personal story, Tiffany Dufu offers many practical suggestions for women to achieve their goals. She clearly articulated what I've felt and shared how she found ways to make that challenge work in her world as she and her husband have navigated 2 successful careers and a healthy family life. In all cases, she feels that society perpetuates the stereotypes and women do not do enough to break through them. I don't know that her solutions would have worked, but I think they could have been helpful for me if I'd read this earlier in life. But it's hard for me to review, as I am not the target of her manifesto. Tiffany Dufu's Drop the Ball is that path.
A bold and inspiring memoir and manifesto from a renowned voice in the women's leadership movement who shows women how to cultivate the single skill they really need in order to thrive: the ability to let go. When she made the list of tasks and chores that she had been responsible for, she shared it with her husband. My book club had a really interesting conversation about how women are socialized to do it all, and how deciding not to do it all to drop the ball is an active decision, an affirmative opting-out. In creating a different tone for her home. I am not saying this as well as she does, but it's a really fantastic book, and I would highly suggest this for women who are struggling to 'have it all'- and who have a male partner as this is where most of the advice would be applicable; less so for single parents or same-sex couples. Someone has to do the laundry.
What I enjoyed most about the book was the relationship porn, in that it's a great time to read about other people's dysfunctional relationships and congratulated yourself on your own family dynamic. Going to exercise building your stamina 2. She realized what you do is less important than the difference you make. Drop the Ball is a refreshingly honest, remarkably inspiring read -- Adam Grant, New York Times bestselling author of 'Originals' and 'Give and Take' Drop the Ball is important, path-breaking, intimate, and brave -- Gloria Steinem Tiffany is a prominent American feminist and this is a compelling book. I personally found some of her suggestions to be only applicable to those living under extreme circumstances—like being the leader of a national corporation—but I still appreciate her general message.
I never really entertained the idea that allowing or asking other to do things for me will help me succeed. A bold and inspiring memoir and manifesto from a renowned voice in the women's leadership movement who shows women how to cultivate the single skill they really need in order to thrive: the ability to let go. I thought this book was going to be about working women in general, so I was surprised by how much of the text was devoted to getting her husband to do the housework. Now, time for the nitpicking. However, this truly was a manifesto on equal, all-in partnership, and there were many pearls of wisdom on how to determine one's priorities, make sure they are aligned with one's actions and career path, and how to enlist help when you need it.